it's not perfect, but it's perfect for me.

I have a history of being a closet romantic and a cheesy blog writer - so why stop now?

And ya know what? 

I am really, really, REALLY lucky to be married to my best friend, 

and to have the relationship that we have.

I've decided to stop comparing my marriage/relationship to other marriages/relationships (even though it can be really hard). I can't tell you how many times I get looking at social media and then I start asking Trev, "Are we as cute as this couple?" or "Are we as in love as this couple?" or "They do fun stuff all the time - all we do is watch Netflix" and so on and so on. What if mine and Trev's relationship isn't that perfect? Are we doing something that is going to set us up for *gasp* failure? Sometimes I get jealous of other wives who seem to have it all together: a husband who says cute things about them on Facebook, a husband who surprises them with getaways and flowers daily, a husband who leaves cute notes all over the house. I mean, Trevor is GREAT and I love him SO much and he does such cute stuff for me (occasionally), but it's easy to look and want more. And there's pressure as a wife to make the house cute, to cook your husband delicious meals nightly, and to create fun date nights like the Dating Divas talk about on their blog. But, as my dear husband has been trying to tell me for months, everyone's relationship is different. Each relationship has something different that makes it tick and makes it tock. For example, our dear friends Tyler and Shannon are constantly participating in some form of PDA (which is fine!). I panic sometimes because I don't like PDA and acting like that with my husband in public because it makes me feel uncomfortable. I'm okay with holding my Trev's hand and an occasional kiss and hug here and there, but that's about it. It's okay though, because that's our relationship, and we're different than Tyler and Shannon. 

Shocker, kids! No one's going to get on Facebook and say, "Gosh I hate my husband tonight! He clipped his toenails on our bed and left the clippings laying there!" (Cough cough, Trevor Sean Green! ;)) That's just not what you do, because that would be admitting that your relationship isn't picture perfect. Just because someone posts on social media that their husband is amazing because he sent her flowers or the husband posts a cute picture on Instagram telling his wife he loves her, or a couple takes the cutest-romanticest pictures etc. etc. doesn't mean their relationship is perfect.  Everything you see on my Facebook, my Instagram and what you read about on my blog doesn't mean my relationship with Trevor is perfect either. I'm just as guilty as posting cheesy statuses and pictures for people to look at to say, "Look at me, look at us, look at how great my marriage is!" 

No matter how people try to dispute it, no one's relationship is completely 

perfect no matter what you see on Facebook/Instagram/blogs/etc.,

 and every relationship has its ups and downs.

(My boss once compared marriage to laying on a bed of nails over and over again, haha.)

Here's the fun thing though: my relationship with Trevor is perfect to me, and his relationship with me is perfect to him. Every relationship is perfect to the couple because it's what works for them. No Trevor doesn't post to Instagram that I'm his #womancrushwednesday or #wcw, no Trevor doesn't buy me flowers once a week, and no, Trevor doesn't have money to buy me new things to surprise me. But he does so many other things and it's about time I appreciate those little things. Trevor always helps me clean, and often times I will come home and he's cleaned the apartment by himself. Trevor is such a blessing when I'm on my period, running around heating up my corn pack, giving me yummy treats, and buying me tampons. Trevor is a damn good breakfast cook. Trevor always kisses my cheeks, nose, and forehead. Trev never forgets to tell me how much he loves me. And that's just a small list of the little things that Trevor does for me! It's time for all of us women out there stop looking at Facebook and Instagram and focus only on the little things our husbands do for us here and now, instead of what other husbands do for their wives.

It's time to stop comparing and worrying, and time to start living and loving my husband in my own way, and be grateful (yes, this is my gratitude post of the day) for the amazing husband and relationship that I do have.

And p.s., no matter how many times it's pinned and repinned on Pinterest, I am not going to do a themed date night anytime soon, Dating Divas. We love our weekly movie-and-dinner dates. So HA.